‘What can I say about Harry Grey?’ is how all tributes to my beloved father-in-law began at his farewell service this past Friday February 26th 2015 in Worthing, Sussex, England UK. Born on 21st May 1933, he passed on quietly on the wee-morning of Thursday February 18th 2016, living to the ripe age of 82 years old.
Dad Harry lived a full life filled with love and fun-loving activities, all the family pictures attest to this. His son, my husband, eulogized him as having an open door policy where anyone was welcomed in anytime to stay as long as they wanted. This policy has carried on in all of his children’s homes including ours where the door is always open for any and everyone to drop by, drop in and visit. Dad Harry’s generosity will live on through his loving family.
Dad Harry knew how to love, nothing fazed him. Always calm and hopeful, he walked gently through life, softly shining his light of love, peace and quiet –the energy he exuded as he calmly made his way through the days. There was no judgment in this man; all were equal, all were loved, all were accepted.
For my husband, Steve, and I who live far away in the US, we will miss the many FaceTime moments, the mandatory birthday calls, the Christmas gifts and cards, the text messages, and the countless barrage of funny spam email he sent his son on a daily basis as a reminder of his humorous presence, always the life of the party. With every struggle we faced, each loss, he called and talked us through the pain, always there with a ready word, a loving gesture. The last time we saw him 2 months ago, I crept up on him and gave him a huge hug and he beamed at me, just the most loving father-in-law a girl could ask for.
Indeed, what can I say about Harry Grey? His only son married me after a very brief, non-existent really, courtship, and he opened his arms wide to receive me into his loving family without hesitation; if his son loved me, he loved me –no questions asked. In the six years I’ve been in the family, I came to know Harry Grey as an accepting, easy-going, kind and loving relaxed gentleman.
Such is the love and acceptance of the man I eulogize today.
Rest in peace dad Harry. xoxo