The Oxford dictionary defines self-care as the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health; the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, particularly during periods of stress; attitudes and actions contributing to one’s well-being; expressing oneself is an essential form of self-care.
My post on ‘finding alignment’ detailed 5 practices I have been engaged in for the better part of 2018 involving self-care, and to be honest my life is so much better for it. The results of self-care are so obvious as to be almost tangible. I have tasted peace of mind like never before. I know I am only at the beginning, the first dimension, in the journey to aligning my values, perceptions and behaviours with the highest and best version of myself.
I hope to get to a place where I merely observe (for myself as well as others), without judging the behaviour as right or wrong, a situation good or bad, that I may merely observe and let the experiences come as they may, and be what they are. As Wayne Dyer says, ‘see the light in others, and treat them as if that is all you see’. Without any striving, I have simply started to see the light in others where nothing is their fault. All I feel is appreciation, acceptance, and love.
Authentic empowerment requires emotional awareness, which has to do with how we feel. Since feeling is the language of the soul, the soul expresses itself through emotions. Pay attention to how you’re feeling. Seek out feelings of hope, joy, peace and love. Authentically empowered people have nothing to defend, nothing to prove. They are content and happy just being themselves living the lives they choose to live, without holding others responsible for their perceptions and/or experiences.
In love, authenticity requires seeking not to control but to nurture, not to blame but to solve, not to dominate but to empower. Primarily, authentic empowerment requires cultivating self-love so we can love others in turn. Darkness can only be eliminated internally by bringing in the light, and that light can only begin to shine when we awaken the unconsciousness, the awareness within us.
Having a belief-system is a form of self-care. The Christian religion has us casting our burdens at the foot of the cross and walking away free -this has offered immense comfort and relief to many in times of trial. Not far from the Christian ‘it is well with my soul’ credo, the law of attraction has us look beyond the problem and play-pretend ‘all is well’ until it is. Other religions and belief systems offer similar relief to their respective adherents.
For others self-help works best. ‘Set a goal… for what it will make of you to achieve it’ said Jim Rohn. For what it will make of you… I love that phrase. I use it to explain everything I undertake. Every new path I get on, it’s for what it will make of me. Every challenge I choose to face, it’s for what it’ll make of me to overcome it. For the living are always growing, and if they’re not, they might as well be the walking dead.
There are other practices and we each should find a self-care routine that works best for us. It could be swimming, going to the movies, having a massage or foot rub, going for long walks, running marathons, anything that contributes to your feeling of well-being. Today is a new day, find your self-care routine and start practising. Let me know how you fare, won’t you! Have a lovely day. Cheers, Grey xoxo