When people go within and connect with themselves, they realize they are connected to the universe and they are connected to all living things ~ Armand Dimele. This quotes rings true as I keep journeying inside to find myself and try and give meaning to life as it unfolds. We really are inter-connected in ways we haven’t even began to comprehend and beyond that which the human mind can fathom.
There are three levels of connection that need to be reached and nurtured for any relationship to be successful: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Physical connectedness helps nurture our need for touch. A hug goes a long way in conveying love and providing comfort for the weary soul. It’s why many of the homeless say this is what they miss the most. We give them handouts without ever touching, yet what they could really use in addition to our donations is even just a glance, an acknowledgment of their humanity.
The heart of emotional connection is not about hearing the words and giving advice, but in sharing the experience with the other person and building empathy -understanding that the other person is feeling something. We often nag even with the best intentions. We fail to realize that it’s not about our intentions being innocent, it’s about perception and more often than not, the other person will perceive it as criticism and control. Emotional connection is robbed when feeling such as hurt, anger, unresolved anger, and resentment are left unchecked; these are the poison of connection that we must all watch for and work through to the other side of staying connected.
We can reestablish this emotional connection by listening to the other person without trying to solve the issue or telling them what to do about it. Like Rachel Naomi Remen says, ‘The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words’.
The spiritual connection is one of the deepest level of connection that we humans can strive for. It’s amazing that our personal spiritual growth will often lead to the empowerment of others observing our growth. To quote Marianne Williamson, ‘as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same, our presence automatically liberates others.’
As we grow in faith, we start to realize that ‘the spiritual path is not a solo endeavor. In fact, the very notion of a self who is trying to free themselves is a delusion. We are in it together and the company of spiritual friends helps us realize our interconnectedness’ ~ Tara Brach. The truth of the matter is, we all desperately want to feel understood and accepted just as we are. If we can learn to live centered in this notion, our connections will be all the stronger for it. Cheers, Grey xoxo